You are looking for that special woman, or maybe you're just looking to find a hot babe to have a one night stand with. You head out to the bar, or club or whatever function you like doing, and you see a really hot woman in a spaghetti strap cocktail dress with silky, long-flowing hair down to the middle of her back, and she is hanging out with her almost equally as gorgeous friends. You engage the group in conversation, and the hot woman you are looking to hook up with becomes interested in your presence. She asks you to come with her on the dance floor, or the pool table, or a more secluded area to get to know you better.

You have a more personal conversation with her, and she starts giving you signals that she is attracted to you; she leans forward to you when you speak, she twirls her hair with her fingers, she gives you a radiant smile, she starts touching your arm, she holds her arms around you, etc. Soon you lean in for a kiss, and her lips passionately embrace yours. You feel the electricity of her soft lips, and soon you are kissing her face, her neck, and she becomes really aroused. She excitedly asks if she can come back to your place, and you can't wait to get her home.

As you walk up your door with her arm in yours, you invite her in, and she eagerly accepts your invitation. However, when you walk into your place, she sees the empty beer cans strewn across your living room table, the empty, greasy pizza box left on the floor, and magazines and video games left all over the room.

Her demeanor suddenly changes, and she is not so eager to stick around your place. Nevertheless, you manage to excuse yourself for the condition of your place and make her comfortable again. You then resume your passionate hookup, you start petting her in a sexy way, and she becomes really horny and begs to make love to you. You get excited and hurry into your bedroom. You start taking off her clothes, and she starts taking off your clothes as well. Soon she takes off your pants and starts begging for you to come inside her. You look around for a condom, but you can't find one to put on. You tell her that you forgot to get condoms earlier, at which point she becomes angry and pushes you away. She rushes to put her clothes back on and hurries out your front door in a huff. You beg her to say, but she tells you, "Go away! I don't want to see you again! Goodbye!"

What went wrong?

The Boy Scouts and the U.S. Army both have a motto which is used as a sacred creed:

BE PREPARED.

In this case, which happens more often men will admit, especially those men who aren't very successful at dating, is that the man wasn't fully prepared for a night of lovemaking. You may ask how he wasn't prepared if he managed to attract the woman he wanted to hook up with into coming to his place. In this case, it wasn't due to a lack of desire; it was due to a lack of physical preparation.

As the hot woman entered his place, she noticed that it was a mess. Most women are not attracted to untidy homes, especially the places of those men they are attracted to. Women often spend hours preparing themselves to go out to bars and clubs or dates, much of that time trying to pick out the outfit that makes them look good, showering, doing their hair, picking the right perfume, and applying the right amount of makeup. These women cared enough about their appearance to meet other people, and they expect the men they hook up with to do the same. Does that mean that you should spend hours getting yourself ready to hit the bars, clubs or restaurants? Not necessarily, but you should take a few steps that will have you ready for a night of passion.

1. Good hygeine. If you are planning to go out with the expectation of meeting someone for a night of passion, this is a must. You should shower and shave beforehand, wear some decent cologne or aftershave (but not too much), and clean your breath. You can do this by having breath mints or Listerine pocket packs with you when you go out.

2. Clean your home. You don't have to hire professional cleaners to come to your place and make it spotless, but you should have it tidy enough so that there are no dirty dishes, empty beer and soda cans and bottles, and discarded fast food wrappers strewn around your place. You may not have thought about those junky items around your place during the day, but a woman will notice this very quickly when she sees your place, and she may make a snap judgment about your character based on the appearance of your home. (I.e., if she sees your place being dirty and haphazard, she may believe that you are not in control of your life and will not see you as a potential mate.) Also, be very conscientious of the kitchen and bathroom areas, since she may come into those places to get drinks or freshen up. Do you really want that incrediblly hot babe to see your crusty, mildewy bathroom? I think not.

3. Have some refreshments available. Make sure that you have some thinks like coffee, soda, beer, wine and bottled water on hand. She may not necessarily want these when she comes to your place, but it is a good thing to have them available if she decides to get comfortable. If you have some wine there when she asks for it, she may even see you as more desirable for your cultured status.

4. Have clean towels and a spare toothbrush handy. If you are fortunate enough to get the hot woman to spend the night at your place, she will appreciate the effort you made to allow her to freshen up.

5. Always have condoms available. This is not just for show. Not only is this for her protection, but yours as well. You don't want or need to risk contracting any sexually transmitted disease, and you can't assume that the woman you meet is clean. And unless you are eager to settle down and raise a young child, you don't want this night to end up with an unwanted pregnancy. Don't assume that she has any condoms with her, and don't assume that she is on any contraceptives. Even if she has contraceptives, this won't protect you from possibly contracting a sexually transmitted disease.

Another note about condoms: men who haven't been very successful on the dating scene or those who have recently ended prior long-term relationships often forget to have condoms with them when they go out looking for dates. Whether they are afraid to hook up with other women, or they are "nice guys" who don't want to take advantage of women, they often set themselves up for failure by not being prepared. There's something to be said about the law of intention here: people who plan on visiting a foreign country don't just go to the airport and ask for a plane ticket.

They spend several days or weeks picking a place to visit, booking their plane ticket, hotel and rental car ahead of time, getting their passports in order, and planning an itinerary of sites to visit when they go to this foreign country. And for those people who seriously seek to become wealthy don't just tell people that they are going to make a lot of money. They have a specific financial freedom goal in mind, and they have a blueprint in place to make money, whether it involves buying and selling real estate, trading stocks and options, or selling goods on eBay.

Does it guarantee that they will become rich? No, but by having a plan in place, they bring ideas and people in place to help them on their way to financial freedom. Dating is the same way. You may not necessarily find a woman to sleep with, but by preparing ahead of time to expect a night of passionate lovemaking, you put yourself in a sexually active state, and the universe will go out of its way to attract a woman eager to get physical with you.